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Posted by Harlequin (Member # 454) on :
 
Has anyone here been to any singles events such as lock and key parties, speed dating or even supermarket singles nights? Over the past few years there has been a big increase in singles events.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
Is there any cunt who hasn't come back on TMO over the last week?

eta how do you do cuss words I will never figure it out.

eta thanks Darryn

How sad that I puzzled for half a day over how to get an uncensored obscene word for the female genitals online [Frown]

[ 10.03.2007, 05:30: Message edited by: wonderstarr ]
 
Posted by jonesy999 (Member # 5) on :
 
It's odd, isn't it? Maybe it really is something to do with the magnetic field of the moon, a group of people being drawn back at the same time. Or maybe everyone really has been lurking and reading and gets caught up in the comeback. Or maybe I'm just talking bollocks.

Have you continued to read the boards regularly since you last departure wonderstarr?
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
Yes Jonesy, but how do you do the curse-word thing?

In fact, many people who used to post here are still absent. Colenski, for instance.
 
Posted by jonesy999 (Member # 5) on :
 
I can't do the curse thing either. I'm too easy natured. Shame about Colenski. I seem to remember he was upset by some banter and never came back. Though I could be wrong.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
Anyway on-topic, Omikin was telling me tonight about a singles night where each attendee was given the name of a chemical element and they had to match themselves up with the substance that would cause a reaction. It sounded like a laugh-riot. For instance, two people meeting could be a kind of real-life enactment of double displacement or coupling substitution, in which two compounds in aqueous solution (usually ionic) exchange elements or ions to form different compounds!
 
Posted by Darryn.R (Member # 1) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by wonderstarr:
Yes Jonesy, but how do you do the curse-word thing?


The same way you do this:

♣ ♥ ≅ ℘


Now reply with quote and you can see how to do those characters, then google for how to do a 'C' and you can type ☁ if you want to..

cunt

[ 10.03.2007, 03:31: Message edited by: Darryn.R ]
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by wonderstarr:
Is there any cunt who hasn't come back on TMO over the last week?


My return was pomted by really needing to do my disertation. At which point every site on the internet i've ever visited looks suddenly appealing as a distraction.

Oh well 2000 words down 8000 to go and 2 and half weeks.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
Is it on anything interesting*, Hades?


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* to me
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by wonderstarr:
Is it on anything interesting*, Hades?


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* to me

Very posibily "Fandom and its effect on todays spin off culture"

I have been using both "Batman unmasked" and "audience studies reader" (among the dozens of other books that are amasing libary fines such as Matt hills, Henry Jenkins, Nancy Baym)
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
That does sound kind of up my street [Smile] Do you mind saying where you're doing it and who is supervising you? Just for my own curiosity! I am not really very up to date with fan-scholar stuff but I think Matt Hills and Cornel Sandvoss are still the major young guns in that dept, and old cannon Henry Jenkins showed he's still got it with 2 impressive books last year.

[ 10.03.2007, 12:58: Message edited by: wonderstarr ]
 
Posted by Harlequin (Member # 454) on :
 
With me I have not really come back I am just on a fleeting visit for a couple of days. Then I will be gone again.
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by wonderstarr:
That does sound kind of up my street [Smile] Do you mind saying where you're doing it and who is supervising you? Just for my own curiosity! I am not really very up to date with fan-scholar stuff but I think Matt Hills and Cornel Sandvoss are still the major young guns in that dept, and old cannon Henry Jenkins showed he's still got it with 2 impressive books last year.

Im at Lincoln university, Its a media Production degree and to be honest im much more at ease with the production practical element of the course,im terrible at essays.

But disertation is a part of it still. My tutor's name is Diane Charlsworth, i dont think shes done much herself.

I'm reading Jenkins 2006 book "convergence culture" which is proving usefull with his stuff about transmedia storytelling.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
Yeah it's such a good book I felt quite resentful about it; I had started thinking of him in my head as the old guy whose last important work was 1992, but he really brought his game back with that book. Even if you might suspect he's getting his son and his students to do a lot of the research. After reading that transmedia storytelling stuff, I had to go back and insert references to Convergence Culture all through the thing about Lost, Life on Mars, Heroes etc I'd just finished.
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by wonderstarr:
Yeah it's such a good book I felt quite resentful about it; I had started thinking of him in my head as the old guy whose last important work was 1992, but he really brought his game back with that book. Even if you might suspect he's getting his son and his students to do a lot of the research. After reading that transmedia storytelling stuff, I had to go back and insert references to Convergence Culture all through the thing about Lost, Life on Mars, Heroes etc I'd just finished.

oooo, i'll be talking about lost in a chapter i hope to write early next week. (spacifically about the "lost experiance")I take it this thing isnt released yet though. Any chance of a preview?
 
Posted by Black Mask (Member # 185) on :
 
Hades, if you stray into action-figure territory you might like to point out that Marvel Legends always put the best (i.e. head) piece of the collectable figure in with the crappest or female character.

You can have that for free. Seriously.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
OK then Hades, stick your email up and I'll send it from work next week.
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Black Mask:
Hades, if you stray into action-figure territory you might like to point out that Marvel Legends always put the best (i.e. head) piece of the collectable figure in with the crappest or female character.

You can have that for free. Seriously.

gotta love free information. Although no im not using action figure. Only spin-offs that continue the story of the fictional universe.

you can e-mail me at my uni address 043134689@lincoln.ac.uk
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
OK [Smile] I've been working (at work!) all day today so I can't think about anything work-related anymore.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
Black Mask isn't talking shit though... there is some academic work (by Jonathan Gray) about the way action figures continue the official narrative.
 
Posted by Black Mask (Member # 185) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by wonderstarr:
Black Mask isn't talking shit though...

Thanks so very much. Do you mind if I quote you on the invitations to my symposium?
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
Sorry, I suppose my tone did sound a bit... surprised.
 
Posted by Black Mask (Member # 185) on :
 
To be fair I just type the first thing that pops into my head, it's pure chance that most of it turns out to be genius.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
I was just getting your back really, I don't know why.

Right I am going to cane a fucking big pizza or two and watch series 1 of The Wire - livin the dream.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
It sure is great when you start watching a new TV show, realise it's as good as promised and know you have 14 more episodes waiting on your DVD, plus two more series.
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
cheers, I look forward to reading it.
 
Posted by Harlequin (Member # 454) on :
 
It is strange how no one has answered the top posting on this thread yet, maybe tommorrow when its Monday and these baords are more busy more people will post on this thread about the thread topic.
 
Posted by Samuelnorton (Member # 48) on :
 
I get the feeling most people don't give a fuck Harlo. Sorry.
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Harlequin:
It is strange how no one has answered the top posting on this thread yet, maybe tommorrow when its Monday and these baords are more busy more people will post on this thread about the thread topic.

No (to answer the thread question)
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
I answered the question with a story about a Science dating event [Mad] So much for my efforts.
 
Posted by Boy Racer (Member # 498) on :
 
Never been to a singles or dating event, and I don't think I ever would really, not my sort of thing at all, too convoluted and unnatural seeming. I tend to stick to the tried and tested method of drinking heavily in public until I wake up with someone hott.
 
Posted by Waynster (Member # 56) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by jonesy999:
I can't do the curse thing either. I'm too easy natured. Shame about Colenski. I seem to remember he was upset by some banter and never came back. Though I could be wrong.

Colenski is a good mate of mine, and as for his dissapearance I could not say, but I will pass on that he was remembered today.
 
Posted by ben (Member # 13) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Harlequin:
Has anyone here been to any singles events such as lock and key parties, speed dating or even supermarket singles nights? Over the past few years there has been a big increase in singles events.

I've heard of key parties but lock and key parties sound scary.


quote:
Originally posted by Boy Racer:
Never been to a singles or dating event, and I don't think I ever would really, not my sort of thing at all, too convoluted and unnatural seeming.

The chemical-themed event described by Wonderbrar was overwhelmingly attended by more women (who came in groups of four or five) than men (who came singly or in pairs) so was an excellent opportunity to any single man in search of 'a bit of the other'.
 
Posted by Boy Racer (Member # 498) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by ben:
The chemical-themed event described by Wonderbrar was overwhelmingly attended by more women (who came in groups of four or five) than men (who came singly or in pairs) so was an excellent opportunity to any single man in search of 'a bit of the other'.

Yeah I can see the appeal under those circumstances. I still think the very fact of being at a singles night, of everyone there being single and (self) consciously looking for 'love' would freak me out a bit.
 
Posted by Vogon Poetess (Member # 164) on :
 
I have been to speed dating once, which was actually quite hard work, in that a lot of people just desperately want to talk about their job for 3 minutes. Also, several people (usually the blokes) will have been invited at the last minute to make up the numbers, and may not even be single. I did get a date out of it, with a guy that was pleasant enough, but nothing further.

A bunch of us went to a lock & key party last year. Without sounding monstrously shallow, one brief glance made us want to leave quickly. We gave it a bit of "ice-breaking", but in the end just went up to the top bar which was open to normal, non-single people and had a band on, and had a nice evening just chatting.

I suppose there is something artificial about such events, but there's also a kind of purity about them in that you can approach someone without wondering if they're on the market and knowing that you're not being too forward.

Anyway, I'm not tempted to go again in future. By the end of this year I will be reduced to paying to join online dating agencies and sifting through the dregs that other women don't want to fuck. Hurrah!
 
Posted by New Way Of Decay (Member # 106) on :
 
For fucks sake VP.
 
Posted by Nathan Bleak (Member # 1040) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Vogon Poetess:
. By the end of this year I will be reduced to paying to join online dating agencies and sifting through the dregs that other women don't want to fuck. Hurrah!

So any single guy is automatically disqualified from being a partner because there must be something wrong with him, or someone else would have snapped him up? Incredible that with this open-minded attitude love still eludes you.
 
Posted by New Way Of Decay (Member # 106) on :
 
That's basically it. I'm lost for words.
 
Posted by Ringo (Member # 47) on :
 
I think the observation works both ways. It's clear to me that the reason VP hasn't found happiness with a man is because she is fundamentally broken, emotionally or psychologically. What makes it worse is that she's actually pretty attractive so can't even use that as an excuse. At least with ugly people you know where you stand - they're single because they're really unattractive. If you're attractive and perpetually single, you're obviously pretty fucked up, one way or another...
 
Posted by ralph (Member # 773) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Ringo:
If you're attractive and perpetually single, you're obviously pretty fucked up, one way or another...

So what do you suppose is wrong with VP? She doesn't appear to be mental or anything. At least not in her posts.
 
Posted by Nathan Bleak (Member # 1040) on :
 
Ringo, it is a bit harsh to call someone 'fundamentally broken' just because you tried to fuck her and she turned you down.
 
Posted by Ringo (Member # 47) on :
 
Not at all, I think it's a fair assessment of the facts.
 
Posted by Vogon Poetess (Member # 164) on :
 
Well, my slightly broken viewpoint is based on several years of accumulated evidence: every time I meet an attractive, funny, kind, interesting guy he already has a girlfriend. If I see a fit bloke, I assume he's taken. Why wouldn't he be? As there are CLEARLY more good looking girls than there are boys, there really isn't much left on the market when you're approaching 30 and the vast majority of your peers are coupled up and have been so for years.

So I imagine the dynamics of online dating involve a clear munter imbalance between boys/girls. I may be wrong of course, and it's a throbbing hotbed of sexxy, well-read, witty studs that have been saving themselves just for me. But I doubt it.
 
Posted by MiscellaneousFiles (Member # 60) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Vogon Poetess:
As there are CLEARLY more good looking girls than there are boys...

I've got an idea!
 
Posted by Louche (Member # 450) on :
 
From evidence sourced from The Mock Turtle it appears that men on dating sites are 50% flaky (don't turn up, don't ring, blow you off after a single date). Some appear to be quite fine, though. And some are good at sexing.

My mate who did Guardian Soulmates for a year was inundated by rather attractive men who kept trying to bonk her despite the fact that she's rabbit toothed and obese. She didn't really go for it (long complicated story involving her in steamy affair with office colleague) and in the end rescued a bunny for company instead
 
Posted by Ringo (Member # 47) on :
 
See, I think it's a bit like getting a job. My mate has been out of work for about 4 years now, and I think at first it was because he liked being out of work, then he didn't really apply himself to getting a new job, and eventually he's gotten to a point whereby when he applies for anything, the first thing they notice is how long he's been out of work and he's instantly categorised as unemployable. I think that's what's happened to you, VP. The worst thing is, though, that you're failing to realise that it is exactly the same set of preconceptions you hold that other single people are applying to you, and now that's the reason you're having so much trouble. You see, you can't say that people who have been single for a long time are always broken, without accepting that by your own standards, you must therefor be broken yourself. Even if you're really just looking for reasons not to let anyone get close to you. Who knows. But either way there are people who are a lot less attractive, clever, witty, etc than you who seem to spend their lives in happy relationships. There must be a reason why it doesn't work for you, and I think you might want to start looking inwards rather than laying the blame on the single people that you meet. Especially when they are most likely doing exactly the same thing to you. If that makes sense.

Probably not.
 
Posted by Vogon Poetess (Member # 164) on :
 
Yes I know that having been on the shelf this long means there's something hideously wrong with me (no curves, not glossy/girly enough, have too masculine tastes in film/sport [ponies and ice skating aside]), but if there's not even anything on the market worth chasing, why bother paying to rectify it?

ANYway, another heart-bruising from Putney Bloke may be on the cards shortly, so that will provide a diversion on the way to match.com.

But at least I'm going to Cheltenham tomorrow, unlike the rest of you.
 
Posted by Ringo (Member # 47) on :
 
No, no, NO that's not the sort of thing I meant at all.

What I'm trying to say, VP, is that perhaps your perception that there's nothing on the market has more to do with the fact you intentially look for reasons not to like someone, than a genuine shortage of suitable men. Y'know, what I was suggesting is maybe you should consider whetheror not it's something you do on purpose because you're afraid of letting new people get close to you, or something.

I most certainly am not saying that you're not pretty or girly enough.

Tell me to fuck off if you want, after all it's none of my business and I don't like to psychoanalyse people, despite what I may say.
 
Posted by New Way Of Decay (Member # 106) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Vogon Poetess:
another heart-bruising from Putney Bloke may be on the cards shortly, so that will provide a diversion on the way to match.com.

I'm not talking to you anymore.
 
Posted by Harlequin (Member # 454) on :
 
I can remember that I nearly got off with a woman in my local launderette back in 2001, she agreed to see me again and I gave her my email address. But I don't think she knew how to us email as she never contacted me. If only I had taken her phone number instead as she told me she had a vodaphone.

[ 27.03.2007, 14:10: Message edited by: Harlequin ]
 
Posted by Abby (Member # 582) on :
 
Back in 2001 it was only really the early adopters who were fully able to use email technology. I imagine things would be different in these more enlightened times.
 
Posted by Samuelnorton (Member # 48) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Harlequin:
I can remember that I nearly got off with a woman in my local launderette

Good Lord. [Frown]
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Harlequin:
her photo number

[Confused] You do hear some seedy tales. I remember once reading on the internet about a guy who met his girlfriend when he was hanging round the cheese aisle of a supermarket at 2 in the morning!! In fact I'm almost sure I read it on Seethr-

oh, sorry.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Abby:
Back in 2001 it was only really the early adopters who were fully able to use email technology. I imagine things would be different in these more enlightened times.

Actually Abby, email was introduced in 1961 [Smile] Though it was called the Compatible Time-Sharing System then, not email. By 1965 it was in use at System Development Corporation in Santa Monica, and MIT near Boston. So women who worked at those two places were really the early adopters! I once got off with a woman who designed Spacewar, the first computer game. But she told me she worked for the Advanced Research Projects Agency and her email address was classified because ARPA is a Government agency.

I found out later she was probably lying because the snog happened in January 1973 and ARPA changed its name to DARPA in March 1972. [Mad]
 
Posted by ben (Member # 13) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by New Way Of Decay:
I'm not talking to you anymore.

quote:
Originally posted by Ringo:
No, no, NO that's not the sort of thing I meant at all.

Vogon -- Ringo and NWoD are the two last men in the universe... which would you go with and why?
 
Posted by Samuelnorton (Member # 48) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by wonderstarr:
You do hear some seedy tales. I remember once reading on the internet about a guy who met his girlfriend when he was hanging round the cheese aisle of a supermarket at 2 in the morning!! In fact I'm almost sure I read it on Seethr-

oh, sorry.

Lo-lo-lol. This individual wasn't hanging around but taking in the wondrous bouquet of the Camembert until this sniffage session was rudely interrupted by a pretty but impertinent young femme. And it was 3 in the morning. Your sources are rubbish - shame on you!

" [Mad] "
 
Posted by Ringo (Member # 47) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by ben:
Vogon -- Ringo and NWoD are the two last men in the universe... which would you go with and why?

I would have thought it was obvious she'd choose NWoD (assuming suicide is not an option) because:

He lives in London and doesn't hate it
He listens to 'rock' music
He plays guitar
He has long(ish) hair and looks pretty gruff
He is older than me
He is in a stable, happy relationship, unlike single me

Hell when I think about it I'm surprised she isn't 'going with' him already..
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
wonderstarr Let me know on here when you've e-mailed that thing as i dont generally check that address that much. [Smile]
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
Yeah I did it ages ago... students these days! Honestly.
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
Ah i didnt get it.... and i think i know why.
Apparently my e-mail address is
043134689@students.lincoln.ac.uk

Shows how little i use it i didnt even know it had "students" in it.
 
Posted by wonderstarr (Member # 1158) on :
 
Huh! OK, tomorrow.
OK I've done it now. Might go to your Junk.

[ 13.03.2007, 19:19: Message edited by: wonderstarr ]
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
cheers. recieved and im pouring over it now.
 
Posted by Zygote (Member # 883) on :
 
Pouring what over it? I thought you needed it to assist with your studies?
 
Posted by Black Mask (Member # 185) on :
 
Maybe it's a pun? Or an anagram?
 
Posted by Zygote (Member # 883) on :
 
I doubt it.
 
Posted by Hades (Member # 57) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Zygote:
Pouring what over it? I thought you needed it to assist with your studies?

Golden Syrup.I find a nice academic paper always goes down better wth golden syrup
 
Posted by Zygote (Member # 883) on :
 
Ye-es.
 


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