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If you think that title's bad, the alternative was "Enough is enough", cue disco lights.
This is not a flounce, just straightforward notice that I'm going to be giving TMO a rest for the foreseeable future. I've drawn a line, you might say.
There are some fantastically intelligent, witty, funny, interesting people here and it's been fun, but as the alternative title says: Enough is definitely enough.
I can't be comfortable in a forum in which it is normal to post beautifully imagined bile and character assassination about someone you've never met or meaningfully interacted with. The fact that anyone else might even have been drawn into imagining that I have a feud, a grudge or any other relationship with someone this unpleasant is alarming itself.
Ultimately the fact that this even bothers me and I've had to think about it is unhealthy and I have better things to do than worry about how any of this vitriol might be able to be linked back to me. So I'm going.
I'm not fishing for compliments, or panning for a fight as that's the last thing I want. Last time I stopped posting here was for much the same reason - this time I'm saying it for the record.
I won't ask Darryn to delete my account, but if he would like to lock, archive or delete this thread he should feel free. I'm sure TMO doesn't need another tedious personal bitching thread.
In the event that anyone did want to contact me (I can't think why, but you never know), you can leave a message on my blog (it's moderated so flaming is pretty pointless).
Have fun TMO. And genuine cheesy smilies to those of you I've had fun talking to over the last nearly a year or so I'll still be taking too many photos, going to the theatre and wearing uncomfortably high heels, just elsewhere.
To anyone who might see this as an opportunity to start a navel gazing argument thread, I have one final cheesy chorus to deploy as a deterrent:
You're so vain/ You probably think this song is about you
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Blaaaaargh and I managed to get Hotel World out the library on Friday (pretty much by wresting it from the previous borrower's hands, yelling "MINE NOW!!! MINE!") on your recommendation. Which is to say I've not been round here long but have enjoyed yr posts... as scrawny said, you'll be missed.
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The saddest thing is that nobody even has any idea why OK is doing this, which can unfortunately only leave me with the opinion that she's leaving over something she's taken personally and never even bothered to ask about.
Ah well, when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Although probably not.
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I'm assuming she's feeling like the latest victim of a Kovacs assault, carried out dispassionately but taken personally. It's a shame, but I can empathise.
OJ - I for one would be sorry to see you go, even though we haven' really interacted directly. Stay, but just don't respond to K's postings. This seems a popular coping mechanism.
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To be honest I don't think the forum has lost anything in particular, and this kind of self absorbed mellodramatic flounce over absolutely nothing pretty much sums up OJ's 'contribution' to the forum.
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I don't really understand what's going on here. I've just had a quick look at the Perverts thread again and I'm struggling to see any examples of "beautifully imagined bile and character assassination about people you've never met or meaningfully interacted with."
I've no doubt TMO is capable of such things but I can't see any recent examples, and I can't think of anyone giving OJ a hard time.
She clearly has her reasons, even if I haven't a clue what they are, but I don't think starting a thread to announce one's departure is necessarily the best idea. It makes it hard to come back without looking a bit daft. If you ever want to come back of course.
For the record, I'll miss OJ's posts. I thought she made a valuable contribution to the place.
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I made an effort for weeks to control my irritation at OJ's constant patronising manner and superior sneering, which seemed based on bluff rather than substance. Often her attitude was directed at me. I tried to show her respect, to be polite and encouraging.
In a recent post, after more of the same, I stopped trying to be so polite.
If a blousy, attention-seeking flounce back to Handbag Fashion is what OJ wants, I'm not going to beg her back.
quote:Originally posted by kovacs: I made an effort for weeks to control my irritation at OJ's constant patronising manner and superior sneering, which seemed based on bluff rather than substance. Often her attitude was directed at me. I tried to show her respect, to be polite and encouraging.
In a recent post, after more of the same, I stopped trying to be so polite.
Yeah, that's what I got from the thread. But I don't think you went particularly over the top. I think comments like 'character assassination' and 'beautifully imagined bile' are unwarranted. You sometimes need a thick skin to post on TMO (and I'm as guilty as anyone of taking posts personally) but I don't even see this as one of those times. In every way, this stomp off seems pointless.
Unless of course I'm missing something from another thread.
"I'm not flouncing, but I have to tell you all that I think you are a bunch of cocks and am leaving because of it..."
Brilliant... Right up there with, "I'm not a racists, right? But God, those Pakis are just too much."
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quote:Originally posted by kovacs: I made an effort for weeks to control my irritation at OJ's constant patronising manner and superior sneering, which seemed based on bluff rather than substance. Often her attitude was directed at me. I tried to show her respect, to be polite and encouraging.
In a recent post, after more of the same, I stopped trying to be so polite.
If a blousy, attention-seeking flounce back to Handbag Fashion is what OJ wants, I'm not going to beg her back.
More of the same...again. Even a post about her turns out to be about you.
Always innocent, blameless... guileless, even.
In fact, I am surprised you even know how to put your own pacifier in since you are so..well, darn blameless!
Why do you hate most tmo posters quite as much as you do?
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quote:Originally posted by imnotthatclever: Always innocent, blameless... guileless, even.
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quote:Originally posted by Carter: I thought OJ was a Thorn troll anyway, so, you know. My grieving's been done.
That would mean that, as Jessica Rabbit, I spent at least one day making two fo my trolls argue against each other.
So. OJ's gone has she? FWIW I largely agree with kovacs's comments about patronising tone, and bluster in place of substance. I found myself biting my tongue on a number of occasions just because it was starting to look like I was launching a relentless vendetta against OJ, when the truth was that I just disagreed with almost everything she had to say. Having two personas helped spread the anger, but it doesn't look good to be seen pouncing on people all the time. Nothing personal, like, but about 90% of what OJ wrote made me do spastic face,
at my desk.
So there we go. That's just one man's take on it, of course, and it seems really ungracious to be posting that when she done :sadfaece: when I said I couldn't be around much. But. Eh. What can you do? I think it was the way she would link to semi-relevant academic writings, or just mention them in passing, rather than explaining them or making them fit the topic under discussion. She did this at least 5 times. I know this, because I started keeping count. As I say. It wasn't like a vendetta, or anything. I just kept count because it was becoming an obsession. Irritating, I mean. It was becoming irritating.
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