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I think there's a couple of people here that have been through divorce, and others that probably know the score, so tell it like it is here...
The scenario: It's our 20th wedding anniversary next January and Mrs Dang thinks it would be nice to celebrate this by getting divorced. Mrs Dang is a mad by-the-way, but I try to humour her as best I can. She doesn't want to split up or move apart, she just doesn't want to be married any more. I'm not that bothered either way, and wasn't that bothered when we got married in the first place. (Not that bothered about the action of getting married and the bit of paper I mean, not that I wasn't bothered about being with Mrs Dang.)
So, the question is, what are the legal implications of getting divorced, and what are the financial implications regarding stuff like pensions and life insurance? And how much does it actually cost? Can you just buy a pack from W H Smiths for 3 quid and send it to HM Office of Bits of Paper in that London?
It's dead easy to get married in the first place, so I imagine it's just as easy to get divorced, right? No? What do you mean?
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I don't understand. What benefits (apart from being able to remarry, which it doesn't sound like she wants to do) would you get from being divorced? Is it just to chalk divorce off a life list? Or am I missing something?
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I think that's a brilliant idea. You hear about all these ***** fucking off to Hawaii to renew their vows... fuck that! Getting divorced for your anniversary is an excellent plan. That's quite a woman you've got there, dang.
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That is the most completely insane thing ever. Are you sure she's not just doing this so you can amicable get divorced then she can run off with Pete the gardner leaving you holding the horde of small Dangs?
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quote:Originally posted by jonesy999: Pete? Your horticulturalist porn is substandard if the sexy gardeners are called Pete.
Jonesy - she wasn't talking about porn. This is Dang's actual life we're talking about here. It's not all just fodder for you to wank over. I - exactly how many times have you wanked over someone else's misfortune on TMO? And how many times have you wished that their fortunes were worse, so it would make it easier for you to get your rocks off?
quote:Thorn exactly how many times have you wanked over someone else's misfortune on TMO?
I'm wanking pretty much constantly when Infinite Jones is around. Every tragic post, it's amazing: from semen, to blood until I'm coming pure bone. There are still shards of clotted red femur on my monitor from the last time his gibberish danced for me.
quote:Originally posted by Black Mask: The only way I can think of possibly topping that is if you both had gender reassignment surgery. And then got divorced.
Nah, what you wanna do is have the divorce first. Then you have the gender reassignment and then get re-married.
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Are divorces granted abroad valid under British law? If so you could gather the family together and go somewhere for the event. Anti-eloping. All you need to do is find someplace exactly unlike Vegas where quickie divorce huts abound.
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quote:Originally posted by jonesy999: I don't understand. What benefits (apart from being able to remarry, which it doesn't sound like she wants to do) would you get from being divorced? Is it just to chalk divorce off a life list? Or am I missing something?
Well, it's a strange situation. It basically boils down to a midlife crisis and wanting to be an individual and get a life and not be referred to as "Mrs Dang" (d'oh, there I go again).
I don't really get the thing about reasonable grounds for divorce. You don't have to have reasonable grounds to get married. I can understand they make it a bit difficult so people don't just have a minor row and go straight down the Post Office and get divorced then regret it when they make up again the next day. But you should be able to reverse the original decision just because... well, because you want to. Same as you can change your name if you want.
What about if you changed religion and didn't want to be Christian married any more? But I suppose it's the legal bit of marriage that's the issue.
I want to hear from people that have done it. If they want to talk about it that is.
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You don't have to have a proper reason, you can just cite 'irreconcilable differences'. As long as neither party contests it, that's basically it. Or you could fake adultery, like they had to in the old days.
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I've done it. It's not just as easy as saying "I want a divorce please" though dang. Yes you can cite irreconcilable differences but even if you both agree to it you have to prove that you have lived apart for 2 years. Costs all in with no property, children, solicitors fees etc for me was about £250 and it took the best part of a year to sort out. As far as I know there's no way around the living separately issue but you'd need to ask an expert.
I'm pretty sure that being divorced would upset pensions and all that other kind of financial stuff and I think you'd have to make sure that you wrote a really explicit will stating what you wanted to go to her and your children.
Couldn't she just change her surname back to her maiden name by deed poll and use Ms. or Miss. Pre-Dang? That only costs £25 and you can buy the pack from WHSmiths. Even after you're divorced you still have to change your passport and then write to loads of places before you can officially use your maiden name again, as I have discovered.
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Dang, is it just a name issue? I've never understood why all my friends what have got married recently have been so keen to change their names and become Mrs Boyfriend. She can easily change her surname back to her maiden name and be referred to as Ms.
But she'll still be a housewife to 4 kids. How would not being married make that less depressing? No offence, like.
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Yeah, and no offence to people who do take their husband's name Lisa, but girls who take on the man's name these days might as well have a giant sign on their heads saying I AM A FUCKING GIMP, don't you think?
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I got married in teh 1990s. That is like way in the past. You were allowed to do stuff like that then. If you're going to do something as traditional as getting married at the tender age of 23 you might as well go the whole hog and have a nice new name to go with it. I used to get a bit of a boner from being called Mrs. Lisa Margreet Baltruschat sounding like some old posh lady but being a young cool chick.
I mean I get the midlife crisis thing and I get the idea that years of marriage might have eroded someone's sense of individuality, but I can't see why getting a divorce would be anything other than an expensive and time consuming pain in the arse way of achieving absolutely nothing. Surely being married is more about how you behave than it is about the piece of paper that is your marriage licence. She's better off going on a road trip with a recently divorced friend, no underwear and a boot full of drugs if she wants to feel individual again. Getting divorced and then carrying on as before just seems futile to me.
Sorry, I want to understand but my little brain won't let me.
quote:Originally posted by London: Yeah, and no offence to people who do take their husband's name Lisa, but girls who take on the man's name these days might as well have a giant sign on their heads saying I AM A FUCKING GIMP, don't you think?
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Not sure I can be bothered getting into it. Also, a bit bored with doing it. I mean, it's not as though I haven't had precisely the same conversation with every single one of my mates.
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